Grief exists because love existed first No one else gets to decide when yours is finished.
Grief and loss therapy for women in Washington State
The Casseroles Stopped. Your Grief Didn’t
The dish somebody brought food in is clean, on the counter, still waiting to go back to its owner.
Three weeks in, the cards stopped arriving.
Six weeks in, someone asks how you’re doing, and you can hear which answer the question was built for. So you give them that one.
Meanwhile, you went back to work on schedule, handled the paperwork, and answered everyone else’s questions about what happens now.
Nobody asked what happens to you.
The Loss Nobody Sent You a Card For
A marriage that ended while both people were still standing.
A diagnosis that took a future you’d already furnished in your head.
Those get no service and no bereavement leave. The world files them under change and keeps moving.
Am I even allowed to call this grief?
You grieve them anyway, on holidays, on ordinary Tuesday afternoons, in songs you didn’t expect to hear.
A loss the world never named still gets to be a loss.
Why You’re Fine at Noon and Undone by Four
Grief runs on more than one track.
One part of you handled the arrangements and went back to work. Another part of you never got a turn.
In parts work, we get to know both of them, and we find out what each one has been holding since the day it happened.
What Changes When Your Grief Gets Room
The work is quieter than you’d expect, and nobody in the hour is checking a calendar.
- Say the true version out loud without managing anyone’s reaction
- Let a memory arrive without steeling yourself for what follows
- Name what the loss changed about your ordinary day
- Laugh at something and let the laugh stand
- Make a plan for next year without calling it a betrayal
Remembering and living turn out to fit inside the same day.
How Your Grief Finally Gets a Turn
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Creating Safety
Every emotion gets to be in the room, including the ones you’ve kept quiet. We slow things down until your body finds moments of steadiness again.
Grief stops feeling like a mistake.
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Making Meaning
We look at what the loss changed about your identity, your routines, and the people around you, and you find which of your values came through it intact.
Who you are now starts taking shape.
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Living Forward
Plans for next year stop feeling like a betrayal. You reconnect with people, with work, and with the things that made life worth having.
Joy arrives without an apology.
Why Trust Me as Your Partner in Healing
You Can Say the Unsentimental Parts
The resentment, the relief, the thought you’d never repeat at a dinner table: all of it is allowed in here.
Both Kinds of Loss Belong Here
I treat a death, a divorce, and a diagnosis as real losses, and you won’t have to explain to me why yours belongs on that list.
The Hard Parts Don’t Rattle Me
Nothing you say here will make me flinch or change the subject, and you never have to soften a detail to keep me comfortable.
Hi, I’m Tye.
One of the most important relationships you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself.
When that relationship gets shaped by anxiety, by hard things that happened, or by years of putting everyone else first, your own voice is the first one you stop listening to. Helping women get that voice back is the work I care most about.
My aim in our sessions is simple. You shouldn’t have to pretend you’re okay, arrive with the answers, or manage how you’re coming across. Honesty is where everything starts, and honesty needs room.
In our work together, we’ll look at how your nervous system, your relationships, your beliefs, and the things you’ve lived through taught you to see yourself the way you do. Then we’ll work on what to do with that: practical skills, a kinder read on yourself, and a stronger line back to your own wisdom.
Tye Sheller, MSW, LICSW
Frequently Asked Questions
No. Grief that got postponed while you took care of everyone else tends to surface later, and later is a perfectly ordinary time to start.
Remembering gets easier here, not thinner. Nothing in this work asks you to set down the person or the chapter you loved.
There isn’t a correct sequence, and I don’t work from a stage model. What you’re doing is a response to having loved someone, and it doesn’t need correcting.
Yes. The end of a marriage, a diagnosis, a future that quietly stopped being available: those are losses, and they get worked with here the same way.
Then you fall apart with someone who won’t hurry you back together. All of this happens online, from your own house, and you don’t have to be presentable again by any particular time.
There’s Still One Person Asking How You Are
Take the First Step Today
You’ve been the one holding everyone else upright since it happened. Somebody should be doing that for you.
We do this online, anywhere in Washington State. The first conversation is free, and you can bring the loss exactly as it is on the day you show up.
Somewhere ahead, a song comes on and you just listen.
What Happens Next?
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Payments & Services
Services are billed on a session-by-session basis.
We provide superbills for insurance reimbursement and accept HSA/FSA.
No hidden fees – all costs are explained before you begin.
